[1] She rejects alternatives to marriage such as domestic partnership and civil union, describing these as inferior options for gay people.

In 2006, Kotulski and McKay received the Michael "Switzer Leadership Award" from New Leaf Counseling Center in San Francisco.

[citation needed] Why You Should Give a Damn About Gay Marriage received positive reviews from Brad Benedict in Ambush Magazine,[3] Joe E. Jeffreys in the Bay Area Reporter,[6] the novelist Lori L. Lake in Sinister Wisdom,[7] and Steffen Silvis in Willamette Week.

[7] Silvis wrote that, as a queer person, he had previously "looked disdainfully upon gay marriage as a plot to domesticate our uniqueness"; however, Kotulski's book had convinced him otherwise.

[8] Hicks found the beginning chapters "vivid and exciting", but believed that the later ones lacked entertainment value and contained too many illustrations and diagrams.