Dame Henriette Alice, Lady Abel Smith, DCVO, JP (née Cadogan; 6 June 1914 – 3 May 2005) was a lady-in-waiting to Queen Elizabeth II from 1949 to 1987.
Henriette was born at Hatherop Castle in Gloucestershire,[1] the daughter of Commander Francis Charles Cadogan, a Royal Navy officer of Quenington Old Rectory, Cirencester,[2] (a grandson of Henry Charles Cadogan, 4th Earl Cadogan) by his wife Ruth Evelyn Howard, a daughter of Sir Edward Stafford Howard, a great-nephew of Bernard Howard, 12th Duke of Norfolk.
Firstly on 4 September 1939, she married Major Sir Anthony Frederick Mark Palmer, 4th Baronet.
[7] Secondly on 17 February 1953, she married Brigadier Sir Alexander Abel Smith (1904–1980),[8] the younger brother of Sir Henry Abel Smith (who in 1931 had married into the Royal Family).
They also had a son and a daughter: Abel Smith died on 3 May 2005 at The Garden House, Cirencester, Gloucestershire, aged 90.