Stoffer grew up mostly in Wisconsin, and was attending college at Brigham Young University when she was cast on The Real World, becoming the first Mormon to be featured on the show.

Growing up, her family moved multiple times, living in Ohio, Illinois, Virginia and ultimately, Wisconsin,[2] where Stoffer spent most of her childhood.

[2] In 1999, Stoffer was 19, and attending college at BYU when she learned from a front page story in the school's newspaper The Daily Universe, that MTV was casting for an upcoming New Orleans season of its reality television series, The Real World.

Though she was not familiar with reality television or MTV, which had been banned on the university's campus,[1][5] she auditioned on a whim, and was chosen among 35,000 other people to be on the show.

Despite this, Stoffer was suspended from Brigham Young University in July 2000 for honor code breaches relating to her participation on the program.

One of her most infamous moments on the show occurred when she seemingly tried to unhook Veronica Portillo's harness during a zip-lining challenge during The Inferno.

[4][11][12] She also spoke on behalf of Path-U-Find Media, promoting her then-beliefs of moral values and working in abstinence and anti-tobacco campaigns.

[2] On November 4, 2004, Stoffer married ophthalmologist and United States Navy veteran Spencer Rogers at the Salt Lake City Temple.

When the Navy sent Rogers to Europe, they bought their first house on the Thames River, which Stoffer's father James helped build.

[2][17] As of 2008, she is no longer a practicing member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, after she came to perceive problems with Mormonism, believing it to have roots in systematic racism, sexism, and homophobia.