"You Don't Even Know Who I Am" is a song written by Gretchen Peters and recorded by American country music artist Patty Loveless.

It was released in March 1995 as the third single from Loveless's album When Fallen Angels Fly.

The song is a ballad that describes the end of a marriage where both spouses realize they have become complete strangers over time.

The first verse describes the wife's decision to leave her ring on the pillow in their bedroom and a letter in the kitchen "next to the grocery list", describing her feelings of distance towards her husband, ending with ”You don’t even know who I am/So what do you care if I go?” The second verse describes the husband's reaction to the events.

He thinks about what he saw, calls her "to say he was sorry/but he couldn't remember what for" and reciprocates her feelings of distance, citing he feels the same way about the state of their marriage, concluding "You don’t even know who I am/So what do I care if you go?” The music video premiered on CMT March 20, 1995, and was directed by Jim Shea.