The importance of observing both sides of a dyadic interaction lead to the development of the interpersonal adaptation theory.
They reviewed theories based in biological, arousal and affect, approach and avoidance, compensation and reciprocity, communication and cognitive, and social norms models.
The wife's requirements, expectations, and desires are a combination of biological needs (unconsciously presumed or performed) and socially learned behaviors.
[1] In the above example, according to IAT, if the husband responds in a manner which meets his wife's requirements and desires, she will reciprocate and posture to mirror his behavior in the interaction.
If in the given example, the husband meets his wife's expectations and behaves unfavorably toward her, her response behavior will diverge, to deescalate the situation.
Consider the following example, in the United States business meeting culture is conducted in a direct, forward, and opinionated way.
American business people engaged in meetings with an agenda and openly voice their ideas and opinions.
In contrast, Japanese business culture is formal, polite and conducted at an elevated level of etiquette.
If instead the American displays tact and decorum, the interaction will be more positive than had the expectation of the Japanese businessman been met.