My Thoughts Exactly

The book covers a variety of topics, such as "feminism, the tabloids, money, faking orgasms, bad managers, fame, sexual abuse, mental health, narcissism, co-dependency, festivals, motherhood, stalking and parking tickets".

Allen says that she wrote the book so her daughters will be able to understand her perspective on the events in her life,[4] and to "set the record straight" following inaccuracies and misleading narratives by the British press.

Vincent notes that Allen wanted to name the record producer who sexually assaulted her, but the publisher's lawyers refused.

[15] Allen describes feeling neglected by her parents: her mother was addicted to drugs and her father was a narcissist who had affairs.

With a growing Myspace fanbase, Allen was profiled in Observer Music Monthly and started working with Greg Kurstin.

Writing about the pernicious nature of journalists and tabloids, Allen alleges that during her period of fame, her words were twisted and stories about her were constructed to fit misleading narratives.

[note 1] Allen writes about hosting the GQ Awards with Elton John, and a wrongful headline about the two falling out which followed.

Allen became overweight when pregnant with Marnie, but after giving birth she quickly lost the weight with alcohol and drugs.

Meanwhile, a backlash to perceived racism in the music video to "Hard Out Here" led Allen to learn more about intersectional feminism.

She also had affairs with men and hired female prostitutes, which continued as Allen supported Miley Cyrus on her Bangerz tour.

She slowly connected Gray to the man who had sent her threatening messages online since 2008, once appeared at a concert of hers holding a banner claiming to have written "The Fear", stole her mail in 2009 and sent her a series of letters.

Allen talks about how her wealth and privilege allowed her to pursue the case, and voices concerns about how less powerful victims of stalking fare in the legal process.

[17] In a positive review, Jude Rogers of New Statesman lauds the book as "uniquely candid" and praises the depth to which it explores "the darkness of being a very famous woman".

[20] Fiona Sturges of The Guardian reviews that the book makes for "compelling but discomfiting reading" as "no detail is deemed too personal".

Sturges describes the memoir as "visceral and affecting" and praises the "lucid and heartfelt account" of Allen's treatment by the press while criticising that her "characteristic self-awareness deserts her" when discussing her privilege.

[22] Nicole Flattery of The Irish Times writes that the book is "commendable for its frankness" and praises Allen's resilience, particularly following her stillbirth, and her description of being "treated as a sex object".

Flattery opines that the novel's best parts "felt like spending time with a ridiculous, outrageous friend" while the worst "was like being left stranded with a girl you just met at the campsite on the last day of a festival".