[1] According to O'Connor, his father, Bernard, was an Oxford-educated surgeon of sophisticated tastes, descended from the last High King of Ireland; he allegedly died early in the First World War whilst serving in the Navy.
[2] In 1934 he was a close friend in London with the author Laurie Lee, who mentions him in his book As I Walked Out One Midsummer Morning, chapter 2, pages 6-7.
[3] He fathered "an unknown number of attractive and intelligent children", including Philip, Max, Sarah, Peter, John, Allaye, Patric, Rachel, Maxim and Félix, referenced in his obituary in The New York Times.
[4][5][6][7] His first wife, married in 1941, was lawyer's daughter Jean Mary Hore, who was sent to a mental hospital after an attempt on her husband's life; she lived until 1997, having been confined for over fifty years.
[8] In 1963 O'Connor married secondly (Anne) Nicolle Gaillard-d'Andel;[9] Memoirs of a Public Baby is dedicated to Anna Wing, the actress and his third partner with whom he had a son, Jon, an education consultant[10] and former teacher.