Jay is the founder and webmaster of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), the most prolific and well-known of the various asexual communities established since the advent of the World Wide Web and social media.

[1][2] Frustrated with the lack of resources available regarding asexuality, Jay launched AVEN's website in 2001.

[2] Since then, he has taken a leading role in the asexuality movement, appearing on multiple television shows, and being featured heavily in Arts Engine's 2011 documentary (A)sexual.

[7] Jay is from St. Louis, Missouri, and he graduated from Crossroads College Preparatory School in 2000.

[9] Jay is part of a nonromantic, three-parent family, which he views as influenced by his asexual identity.