Marriage in Indonesia

Marriage has a very noble goal, namely to form a happy, eternal family based on God Almighty.

This is in accordance with the formulation contained in Law Number 1 of 1974 article 1 that: "Marriage is an outer and inner bond between a woman and a man as husband and wife with the aim of forming a happy and eternal family (household) based on the One Godhead.

In terms of Islam, the conditions for a valid marriage are very important, especially to determine since when it is permissible for a man and a woman to have sexual relations so that they are free from adultery.

In Indonesia, where the majority of the population is Muslim, Islamic law greatly influences the moral attitude and legal awareness of the people.

Marriages carried out according to Islamic rules may also be included in the category of modern wedding ceremonies.

After the parents of the man who will be arranged marriages have sent their investigation about the condition of the girl who will be made daughter-in-law.

In ancient times, what was commonly called Jodang (a place for food and so on) was carried by four men.

After the wedding proposal is received, then both parties negotiate a good day to carry out the peningsetan ceremony.

What is meant by siraman is to bathe the bride and groom which means to clean oneself to be holy and pure.

[15] Midodareni comes from the word widodari (Javanese) which means daughter from heaven who is very beautiful and very fragrant.

[16] Langkahan comes from the word langkah (Javanese) which means jump, the langkahan ceremony here is intended if the bride married before her unmarried sister or brother, then before the marriage contract begins, the bride and groom are required to ask permission from the older sister or older brother who was stepped over.

The ijab qobul ceremony is usually led by an officer from the office of religious affairs so that the terms and conditions of the ijab qobul will be valid according to religious law and witnessed by government officials or civil registration officers who will record their marriage in the government records[18] Panggih (Javanese) means to meet, after the marriage ceremony is complete, the Panggih ceremony can be carried out.

[19] Sundanese traditional weddings are currently more simplified, as a result of mixing with the provisions of Islamic law and "practical" values where "the bride" wants to be more simple.

The customs that are usually carried out include: worship (pengajian), siraman, "seren sumeren" for the bride and groom.

Then sungkeman, "nincak endog” (stepping on eggs), "meuleum harupat" (burning seven sticks), "meupeuskeun kendi" (breaking a jug), sawer (given coins, yellow rice) and "ngaleupaskeun kanjut kunang" (releasing the coffers containing coins).

[20] After the traditional ceremony ends, the bride and groom and their families rest to wait for the wedding reception or known as walimahan.