[1] She fled South Africa in May 1977, on the advice of colleagues in the African National Congress, moving to Botswana and then later to Israel where her parents had settled, before becoming a novitiate in the Dominican Order in Oxford, England, in 1981.

[1] In the early 1990s she began to "discern and explore" issues around her body and identity; she took a leave of absence from the Dominican Order, and moved to Eastbourne in England.

[7] Her return to South Africa was complicated by a loss of citizenship during the apartheid era, and her change of sex classification.

[5] Eventually she was granted a passport and a birth certificate with female sex markers, on the basis of a mistaken original classification.

[4] The Daily Maverick newspaper reported that Gross died alone in her apartment in Cape Town on 14 February 2014, "having been forced to appeal to friends for funds to pay rent and medical bills as her health deteriorated; she was virtually immobile.